by Neil Lott | Jan 8, 2022 | Femininity, Love
In my experience with working with women, I’m feeling more and more how expression and permission to express are places where conditioning, trauma, and the collective non-culture all have done their best to clamp down and take women out of their naturalness and...
by Neil Lott | Jan 8, 2022 | Nourishment
In Chinese Medicine the Kidneys house our Jing which has a huge impact on our energies. This non-culture and all the different rat-races and distractions that go along with living in the “modern civilized world” essentially zap this Kidney energy and then...
by Neil Lott | Dec 28, 2021 | Masculinity
There are many ways to dull your sword as a man — ultimately are all forms of distraction that pull you away from your purpose. Distraction will prevent you from learning, take you out of your process, will ultimately drain your energy, and is NOT...
by Neil Lott | Dec 15, 2021 | Chinese Medicine, Femininity, Masculinity
by Neil Lott | Dec 13, 2021 | Accountability
When entering into a intimate relationship (i.e. you are having sex regardless of whether its casual or not), I would strongly ask you to consider that you being with your partner is also committing to assisting your partner work through their karma and vice-versa....
by Neil Lott | Dec 6, 2021 | Femininity, Intimacy, Masculinity
Here are some reflections, principles, and learnings I’d like to share to assist you in your intimate relationship. My partner and I have found what follows useful in facilitating couples building their intimacy during our Couples Workshops. ...
by Neil Lott | Nov 22, 2021 | Intimacy
In my experience over many years in exploring intimacy, I’ve noticed a larger pattern where expansion sometimes brings up deep pain. When people put in the love, work and commitment to show up for each other over time and put energy in the day-to-day of...
by Neil Lott | Nov 19, 2021 | Accountability, Masculinity
This past week, I found myself sitting in the Trauma Unit of the Las Vegas Medical Center at the foot of my Dad’s Brother’s Bed who was being kept alive on life support. Sitting next to me to my right was my father. It was 1:00am and we both had journeyed...
by Neil Lott | Nov 3, 2021 | Accountability
(Read out loud please.) I’ve noticed in my relatings with women and my son that sometime there is a knife of insanity (maybe more than one) that’s buried right in the middle of the relating. You will know if this knife is there and of insanity because...
by Neil Lott | Oct 20, 2021 | Accountability, Masculinity
Back in 1983, when I was 5 years old and still living in Connecticut, my grandfather who loved to smoke cigarettes, took me in my father’s old beat-up blue Volvo to a Perkins restaurant one rainy, cold autumn day. My dad would keep this Volvo parked in the...
by Julia Lee, DACM, L.Ac. | Oct 13, 2021 | Chinese Medicine
(Note from Neil: I would like to share Dr. Lee’s perspective on Chinese Medicine and utilizing herbs in your healing process. I have been receiving herbal medicine from Dr. Lee for the past several months and have noticed the more stubborn and older health...
by Neil Lott | Oct 13, 2021 | Accountability, Femininity, Masculinity, Nourishment
(Please read aloud and take your time. There’s a lot here to digest and move through you. What follows is a step-by-step exploration that cannot be rushed — only felt into over time.) The “Couple Bubble” is a trap and its metaphor overly...
by Neil Lott | Sep 28, 2021 | Femininity, Masculinity, Uncategorized
(This post is for men. You’ll have to discern whether this applies to you and if you are uncertain feel free to reach out to me. The reason for this post is that I’m learning that some men maybe blocked in their feeling capacity, so I’m addressing...
by Julia Lee, DACM, L.Ac. | Sep 22, 2021 | Femininity, Masculinity
The first time I encountered having someone be present and hold space for me deeply was in Bodhgaya, India. I was in a personal crisis at the time, and didn’t feel emotionally supported by anyone. At the monastery I was staying in, I started chatting with a...
by Neil Lott | Sep 17, 2021 | Accountability, Femininity, Masculinity, Nourishment, Surrender
(This post is directly for men who get frustrated when women start expressing themselves and this post is especially for men who react to a woman’s expression by wanting to shut it down or change it. For women reading this, please notice that my tone here is...
by Neil Lott | Sep 14, 2021 | Accountability, Femininity, Masculinity
Safety I’m noticing safety is a big block for intimacy on all sides so I’m offering some insights I’ve been gifted in my experiences having explored safety for myself and in my intimate relatings. Principle 1) A man needs to find his own safety...
by Neil Lott | Sep 6, 2021 | Accountability
Drop facebook, instagram, etc, — these all have you chasing for validation, recognition and/or being seen with the insidious manipulative intent of keeping you imprisoned in the electronic prison of FANTASY where you will never arrive to anything but confusion...
by Neil Lott | Aug 20, 2021 | Nourishment
As you begin to show up in your life more, you might be faced with different challenges of having to show up in ways that you didn’t expect to and be asked to give what you never received. Doing this is one of the underlying cornerstones of unconditional love...
by Julia Lee, DACM, L.Ac. | Aug 9, 2021 | Femininity, Masculinity, Nourishment, Surrender
How did I, an acupuncturist and a doctor of Asian Medicine practicing in Silicon Valley, California, cross paths with Neil Lott, an energy guide living halfway up a mountain near Durango, Colorado? This extended weekend with Neil was only possible because of modern...
by Neil Lott | Aug 2, 2021 | Accountability, Masculinity
Several years ago while my partner was away at a workshop in Mexico and unavailable for communication, I was working on making a particular necklace out of tanned leather (deer and elk). I thought I had all the hide I needed, but what I had was too thick and...
by Neil Lott | Jul 22, 2021 | Accountability, Masculinity
As a man, there are a couple of basic things that I strive to deliver to my community and that I also recognize as a commonality in all men of intelligence who I have learned from. 1) Men of intelligence maintain a pristine environment so everything can be seen...
by Neil Lott | Jul 8, 2021 | Grief
One of the most ecstatic of feelings that moves us is Grief. When we lose a friend, a lover, a parent, our pet, our home — you name it — Life is checkmating us into a place of deep feeling, inspiration and possibility to pause in our own lives, feel and...
by Neil Lott | Jul 6, 2021 | Nourishment, Orgasm, Surrender
As part of my service to the community, if any woman requests a hug from me I will gladly show up for as long as she feels to receive. What does this really mean? This can sound stupid, simple, and possibly manipulative….its not. Read on.. Considering all the...
by Neil Lott | Jul 1, 2021 | Ejaculation, Femininity, Masculinity, Orgasm
This unfortunate “goal” has been passed down unconsciously and is from conditioning and needs to be undone, unraveled and re-examined really closely. Many women have been trained and conditioned by unconscious men to perform a certain way in sex that...
by Neil Lott | Jun 30, 2021 | Femininity, Masculinity, Nourishment
In reflecting back upon my past pornography addiction, I see a clear motivation of me chasing relaxation through ejaculation. When not making babies, my experience is that using ejaculation to relax never worked and never will work and in fact, ejaculation is the...
by Neil Lott | Jun 30, 2021 | Femininity, Masculinity, Nourishment
In general, our bodies function in certain fundamental energetic patterns. A woman and man are each like a battery but with their polarities in different places. A woman’s + (positive pole) is in her throat, chest, breast, and heart. A woman’s –...
by Neil Lott | Jun 28, 2021 | Accountability, Details, Masculinity, Mastery
(From L to R) Jimmy Jacobs, Mike Tyson, My Mom, My Uncle, and Me at 9 years old in South Windsor, Connecticut – 1986 Family History is fascinating and there are insights everywhere once I’ve started really looking. I have spent lots of time going outside...
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