Nourishing Kidneys

In Chinese Medicine the Kidneys house our Jing which has a huge impact on our energies. This non-culture and all the different rat-races and distractions that go along with living in the “modern civilized world” essentially zap this Kidney energy and then...

Finding Your Spine and Sharpening Your Sword

There are many ways to dull your sword as a man — ultimately are all forms of distraction that pull you away from your purpose.   Distraction will prevent you from learning, take you out of your process, will ultimately drain your energy, and is NOT...

The Commitment of Karma

When entering into a intimate relationship (i.e. you are having sex regardless of whether its casual or not), I would strongly ask you to consider that you being with your partner is also committing to assisting your partner work through their karma and vice-versa....

A New Baseline​

In my experience over many years in exploring intimacy, I’ve noticed a larger pattern where expansion sometimes brings up deep pain.​ ​ When people put in the love, work and commitment to show up for each other over time and put energy in the day-to-day of...

The Knifes of Insanity

(Read out loud please.) I’ve noticed in my relatings with women and my son that sometime there is a knife of insanity (maybe more than one) that’s buried right in the middle of the relating. You will know if this knife is there and of insanity because...

Uncompromisingness and Cock Energy

Back in 1983, when I was 5 years old and still living in Connecticut, my grandfather who loved to smoke cigarettes, took me in my father’s old beat-up blue Volvo to a Perkins restaurant one rainy, cold autumn day. My dad would keep this Volvo parked in the...

Safety

Safety I’m noticing safety is a big block for intimacy on all sides so I’m offering some insights I’ve been gifted in my experiences having explored safety for myself and in my intimate relatings. Principle 1) A man needs to find his own safety...

For the love of of Love — Leave Social Media!

Drop facebook, instagram, etc, — these all have you chasing for validation, recognition and/or being seen with the insidious manipulative intent of keeping you imprisoned in the electronic prison of FANTASY where you will never arrive to anything but confusion...

Learn to give what was never given to you

As you begin to show up in your life more, you might be faced with different challenges of having to show up in ways that you didn’t expect to and be asked to give what you never received. Doing this is one of the underlying cornerstones of unconditional love...

A Man’s Love

As a man, there are a couple of basic things that I strive to deliver to my community and that I also recognize as a commonality in all men of intelligence who I have learned from. 1) Men of intelligence maintain a pristine environment so everything can be seen...

The Gift of Grief

One of the most ecstatic of feelings that moves us is Grief. When we lose a friend, a lover, a parent, our pet, our home — you name it — Life is checkmating us into a place of deep feeling, inspiration and possibility to pause in our own lives, feel and...

The HUG

As part of my service to the community, if any woman requests a hug from me I will gladly show up for as long as she feels to receive. What does this really mean? This can sound stupid, simple, and possibly manipulative….its not. Read on.. Considering all the...

Ejaculation is not Relaxation

In reflecting back upon my past pornography addiction, I see a clear motivation of me chasing relaxation through ejaculation. When not making babies, my experience is that using ejaculation to relax never worked and never will work and in fact, ejaculation is the...